It’s Mothers Day.
In church today, I met a man and woman who sat behind my family.
The woman turned to me and said, “Appreciate every moment you have with them. You’re very lucky.”
Her husband leaned towards me and said, “We lost our son three years ago. He was 25.”
I didn’t know how to react. For one, I’m awkward. Two, how do you tell someone you just met how sorry you are for their loss, and let them know how much you truly mean it?
I smiled sadly and told them how sorry I was, and gave them both tight squeezes anyway.
I haven’t stopped thinking about it since then.
I went through the rest of the day with this sort of heaviness—this sort of guilt. Their son was only a few years older than I am. How is it fair that I got to spend today with my mother and my grandmother? And her with me? And some people didn’t?
I began thinking about my roommate who lost her mom this past October, and another few friends who lost hers this past year as well.
I know what the nice woman and her husband told me and the loss of my friends’ mothers are only supposed to make me more grateful for mine—and it definitely does—but it also fills me with sadness.
It forces me to face the truth.
One day, my mom won’t be here.
It actually kills me to think about that.
I love my mom more than anything. She is the strongest, smartest person I know. She is the woman who brought me into this life, and carries me through it now. She is my rock. My role model. My best friend. I talk to her every day, and I have absolutely no idea what I’d do without her. I have plenty of people to turn to, but no one could ever replace who my mom is to me—not just as a mother, but as a person.
And one day, I won’t be here either.
As depressing and sad as this,
we need days and moments like these.
We need these days to celebrate life, and the beautiful people who are in it, or who were in it.
We need these times to appreciate and be grateful and aware.
Whenever that day comes—whenever I won’t be on this earth with mom, or whenever she won’t be here with me—I’ll do just as others are doing today.
I will be thanking God for the time I had with such a wonderful person.
I will be celebrating life, and how lucky I am to have known someone so special.
Check out this really awesome Mother’s Day article by Cherese Jackson: