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A year of lessons, a year later.

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7/20/16.

WHAT?

I can’t believe a year ago today I finished writing A Year Of Lessons. It was absolutely one of (if not the) most transformative experiences of my life to this day. It wasn’t just a year that I lived and documented, but it was one that I created and shaped because I intentionally chose to see something special (both the good AND bad) in every single day. I learned gratitude and dedication and vulnerability and perspective and persistance and all those nights sitting on my college apartment floor at 3am after a horribly long day but still writing and hating my life finally added up to something. Looking back today, A Year Of Lessons was such a wonderful gift I granted to my future self, and hopefully to some of you all who hopped on the ride and read along.

This is exactly why I’m so in love with storytelling and words and writing and art, and sharing it with others. Because it’s a message from the past for the future. When I was unpacking my very last box from college a few weeks ago, at the top of the box was the first month of lessons from my blog printed out on paper. I read some of them and was completely shocked at the effect it had on me: I cringed at some, laughed at others, and couldn’t stop the smile on my face from spreading at most. The words on these pages were still so powerful, and reminded me what I still need to learn but also how far I’ve come. Later that day, I was editing my new podcast (https://soundcloud.com/user-986375572) (eep so excited) and something a professor said in an interview over three months ago had beautiful meaning then, but in that very moment, in my circumstances at that point in time, it moved me to tears. Stories are like time capsules. It’s a gift; a whisper and a warm smile from God saying, “You need this.” Words can move us and transform us and they transcend time and space. They’re little messages. Little signs.

This blog was never just a blog to me. The writing was never just writing. The job you hold, the things you go through, the people you meet… they’re never just that. They are experiences, and they are lessons waiting to happen. At such a crucial time in my life where I’m at a crossroad beginning a new journey that i’m not 100% sure about it (I’m working in DC!!! This was not my original plan at all!!! But I’m excited!!! And scared!!! And also confused at how one metros!!!), this was the perfect reminder to be open, be excited, and to learn.

Thank you, AYOL.

And thank you to you all.

Both are forever engrained in my heart. <3

All my love,

<3

Mia (Your newest post graduate… I did it!)

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Lesson #291: What I learned when I just went for it.

5/8/15.

Whether you’re uncomfortable with stepping out of your comfort zone, scared you might fail, or embarrassed by the lack of things you know:

1. Start somewhere.

You don’t and won’t get experience if you never put yourself out there and physically go after what you want. Seth Kingsley, one of the head writers and producers at E!, emailed me this after I sent him my resume:

You rock. I love students who know what they want to do and go after it! I talk to kids all the time who say they want to be writers but don’t write. Or aspiring actors who don’t act. You, on the other hand, are getting things done! So keep it up.

I promise you, I didn’t realize that what I was doing was special. I still don’t. I’m just truly doing what I love to do. But what Seth said inspired me to think about my life and pursuing my dreams even more. Actually—it helped me today in my attitude towards tackling what seemed like something I didn’t know how to do or think I could do: just go for it.

A few months ago, a friend from high school saw my final video project that I talked about in a previous lesson, and asked me to film her wedding. My response:

“…………You know I’ve never done that before right?”

She told me she knew. But she believed in what I could do.

Honestly, I was scared shitless. All the way up until today, and even all the way through the wedding, I was terrified.

All I could keep thinking was: “Am I doing this right? Do I look stupid? Am I getting the right things?” 

My lesson of the day isn’t “how to stop nervous thoughts” or “overcome them” or ‘”solve them.” Oh, no. When you’re nervous, you’re nervous. When you’re scared, you’re scared.

But as you’ve probably heard before,

do it afraid.

Do it not knowing what you’re doing or if it’s right. Do it with questions. Do it with doubt.

But do it with belief that that you can get through it, that you will learn from it, and that it’s your first step towards something.

2.If you want something, don’t settle for not getting it.

Gonna be real for a moment.

Sometimes I just have to hope and pray the whole world doesn’t read this blog.

Tonight, I also met a really attractive and nice guy. And we ended up kissing.

This is completely not like me.

No. You don’t understand.

If an attractive person even looks in my direction, I’m like: “What are words?”

But tonight, I decided that it wasn’t going to end with me going home and wishing we had kissed. It was going to happen.

It was somewhat obvious that we might be into each other. And then it became blatantly obvious. We talked all night, but then it started to get late so I said bye. I looked back at him and walked really slow. He laughed at me from down the hallway and caught up with me to walk me out. When we got to the door, we awkwardly stood there for a minute and then said bye again and went our separate ways. I got in my car and was like, “What? What? No. I’m not leaving until—no.” So I seriously got out of the car, went back in, pretended I left something (classic), found him, and made him walk me to car.

You know how it went from there.

Anyway.

This is really awkward. I’m literally posting this on the internet.

But basically, what I’m telling you is this.

IF YOU WANT IT, GO GET IT.

Period.

The end.

Thank you, today, for teaching me a great lesson, and helping me realize that I have way more guts than I give myself credit for.

It all starts by—well—starting.

So whatever it is,

go after it.

Start by starting, and don’t back down until you get what you want.

Day 291.

Lesson #33: It all comes together.

8/21/14.

I’m going to write you a little follow up lesson.

Or three.

Basically, as soon as I got out of school in May, I’ve been stressing and thinking and planning and plotting and buying and wishing and hoping and praying for today.

And not for the one reason I expected.

But for two.

One, I am finally laying in bed, moved into my first house.

Two,

I have finally found the answer to my big idea.

Let’s re-visit some lessons.

Shall we?

Exhibit A.

Lesson 16.

Perfect timing does exist.

I know this because when my answer came to me today, I knew it was the one.

And there was no doubt in my mind that it wasn’t perfect.

Exhibit B.

Lesson 18.

Ask.

Because it makes a difference.

A huge difference.

They did know a thing or two that I didn’t. They did see it from a different angle. They did have better ideas, and better resources, more love, and more to offer.

And it helped me reach my answer.

Exhibit C.

Lesson 6.

Grow up, don’t grow down.

I hated the idea of growing up.

I think I still might a little.

(Hey, it’s a process)

Paying for rent, utilities, and a car I crashed into this summer absolutely sucked.

But I made it.

I’m here.

I’m on my step.

Literally.

And I’m deciding to grow up, not grow down.

I made a promise to you and to myself that cool things are on the verge of happening.

When you begin to grow up, you don’t lose everything. You gain everything. Your life is growing and embellishing and unfolding in new ways.

And so is mine.

I’m in my first house, and as silly as it seems, the possibilities are endless.

Rent and gas are nothing compared to the memories i’ll be making with my roommates, the yummy recipes i’ll be learning how to cook (…or not), and the frolicking I’ll be doing around my room with no pants on because I can.

Growing up gets hard, but I’m going to enjoy it.

I’m going to bask in all it’s glory,

and laugh in it’s face.

So today,

This day,

It all came together.

This is just reaffirmation for you and for me that perfect timing does exist, that asking does make a difference, that growing up doesn’t have to mean growing down.

It all comes together.

Sometimes, quickly.

Other times?

Slowly.

But surely.

And that’s when it’s the best.

The most rewarding.

So today I’ve learned it all comes together. It really does.

You just have to believe it.

Day Thirty-Three.

 

Lessons Mentioned:

Lesson 16: Perfect timing does exist.

Lesson #18: Ask.

Lesson #6: Growing up? Or Growing down?