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“It isn’t easy.” A guest lesson by Michael Galfetti.

I’m tired of people thinking things will be easy.

I feel like people think “once I get my dream job” or “once I meet the right person” or “once I find God” that life will be easy.

But that isn’t true.

Being in love with your soulmate will not be easy.

Discovering who you are will not be easy.

Being caring and open will not be easy.

But the thing is—you will not be satisfied with an easy life.

The challenge is what makes life all the better.

Here’s the thing: life is hard.

But don’t ever let it stop you from doing what you want.

In fact,

life being difficult probably means you are doing something right.

-Lesson by Michael Galfetti-

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Michael Galfetti is a junior at George Mason University studying Government and International Politics. The picture was taken on his study abroad in El Salvador (that is also where he gained the perspective that allowed him to write this blog post). Where he learned about women’s fight for their rights in the country. He has an interest in working internationally and recognizes the role the West plays in international development. You can find him on twitter at @spaghetigalfeti.

 

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“Don’t you dare wish time away.” A guest lesson by Morgan Weitzel.

Don’t you dare wish time away.

Time is finite, making it one of the most precious things here on this earth. Finite things have an end. Time will end. Always.

One of my biggest college regrets is wishing my time away and wanting to move on to the next chapter of my life before I even finished the page that I was on.

A bad breakup regrettably triggered my time squandering.

For the next year and a half, I not only disliked who I had become because of the breakup, but I also began resenting my life and the cards I had been dealt. I wanted to fast forward to the end of college—where my new life would begin and where I would have a fresh start at happiness.

I stopped going out, cut off close friends and family, and lost my Morgan spark. For that, I honestly hated the guy—but now I know better.

Hating someone still makes them an important part of your life. If you forgive them—even if they stole your heart, time, and money—it makes them obsolete. [Side note: Don’t ever let a stupid boy do that to you, ladies. No guy is worth the pain. I have so much more advice about that…but that’s for another lesson. ;)]

So THAT, expediting my life’s chapters, is my biggest regret. I was so focused on a final destination that I hoped to skip the journey simply because I ran into some bumps.

I’ve learned that no one knows what life will bring on any given day. No one knows how long anything will last. No one knows when you might lose something or someone you love. No one knows when the next tomorrow won’t come. No one knows ANYTHING.

Now, after I’m finally over the mega-douchelord (I guess I shouldn’t call him that..but it’s definitely the most appropriate of the words that I would like to call him), here I sit without any possibility of regaining that time. I have one semester to make up for all the time I lost staying in bed, binging on takeout and Netflix. It breaks my heart all over again to think about how I spent my days crying and angry at the world, when I could have been out with my best friends making unforgettable memories.

All because I was caught up wishing away time.

Time is finite. Everything will eventually come to an end without warning, but don’t rush. Take life slowly and savor every step along the way. Enjoy where you are when you are. The journey is the best part. Don’t waste time being unhappy; it’s just not worth it. Ever.

Don’t you dare wish time away you beautiful soul, you.

-Lesson by Morgan Weitzel-

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Morgan Weitzel is a strong, independent woman with a heart of gold, the lifestyle habits of a 70-year-old man, and (if needed), the attitude of a fighter. She is heading into her final semester at JMU, and will be graduating with a degree in Speech Pathology and Audiology. She’s never really taken the time to scribble down the on-going thoughts in her head, but she is finally ready to share a lesson.

“It’s okay to cry behind your sunglasses: A lesson on long-term gratification.” A guest lesson by Michelle Mullins.

I have learned that history tends to repeat itself.  Recently, I stumbled upon this quote on Twitter: “The greatest human tragedy is that we want what we can’t have, grow disinterested in what we do, and terribly miss the things we lose.”  This really hit home for me, personally.  I tend to take things for granted when they’re there, get bored with it, and I’m always looking for something better.

My lesson for you today, is to not be like me: don’t go seeking out something that could possibly be better.  A lot of the time, it’s not.

Now don’t get me wrong—I’m not saying we should be stagnant and not take risks or make changes in our lives.  I believe that change is important, and striving for more is fantastic.  But when it comes to people, relationships, love—appreciate when you have a good thing.  There are so many pictures on Pinterest, Tumblr, Instagram, Facebook, and more of couples that you “should” be like.  As much as those pictures are #goals, it is such a minuscule representation of what that relationship actually is like.  I’m not trying to be a Debbie Downer, but the couple with the cute candid picture of them kissing or laughing could be fighting every night, or may not have even been together for that long.  In a long, committed, and serious relationship it’s not always going to be fun.  There will be times when you get into a “lull” in your relationship or get bored with it—but don’t give up.  Don’t let go, and then end up missing what you have lost.  Sometimes, we need to put in a little extra effort so things don’t get boring. Sometimes, we need more communication to save something that is extremely valuable.

The problem with our generation is that not many people (including myself) understand how to put in that extra effort because it’s so much easier just to give up. In our generation, we all want instant gratification, which eventually leaves us feeling empty.  To have fulfilling and rewarding relationships, we need to learn the value of long-term gratification, the ability to resist temptation for an immediate reward, and how to wait for a later reward.  Next time you think it would be easier to break up because you’re bored or because you got into an argument, think deeply about what you would be giving up.  Ask yourself: am I making this decision based on delayed or instant gratification?  In the long-run, will this leave me feeling satisfied or empty?

I have had this experience twice now, and both times I have been left feeling empty.  Do not make the same mistakes I have, or you’ll end up crying behind your sunglasses at work.  While it’s okay to cry and let the emotions out, it is not okay to make the same mistake twice.  Resist smaller more immediate rewards in every aspect of your life—not just relationships—in order to receive a more enduring reward later down the road.

All I can hope for in my personal life is the “three strikes and you’re out” rule.  I don’t deserve a third chance, but I hope to someday earn one again.  An anonymous person on Tumblr posted: “Never trust a person that has let you down more than 2 times. Once was a warning, twice was a lesson, and anything more than that is simply taking an advantage.”  I hope that someday I can have that third chance, not to take advantage—but to do things right.  I know I personally need time to mature and develop more deferred gratification.

Please use this lesson as a warning. Do not grow dissatisfied when there is nothing wrong.  Appreciate what you have, and don’t always go looking for more.  Practice long-term gratification in order to avoid long-term heart ache.

And in the meantime, it’s okay to cry behind your sunglasses.

-Lesson by Michelle Mullins-

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Michelle Mullins is a sophomore at James Madison University, double majoring in Marketing & Advertising and Corporate Communication, with a secret dream of going into journalism.  Her hobbies include workouts at 6am, more extra-curriculars than one can handle, and tumbling. Check her out here at the-michellem.tumblr.com.

“Move On” Guest Lesson by Madi Horner

Life doesn’t always go the way you want it to. Shocker.

Sometimes you make mistakes, forget things, or, sometimes, Life just wants to see how many times you get back up after being knocked down.

I wish I believed that things happen for a reason. But sometimes, I think that things just happen. No reason. They just happen.

And sometimes you just have to let them go.

You can sit around your house and sulk for the rest of your life if something doesn’t go your way.

OR…

You can sit around your house and sulk for like 2 hours and then choose to move on.

You NEED to mourn things. ITS CATHARTIC. It’s cleansing.

It’s just like if someone you love passes away. You don’t just say,” Oh, well that’s that. Time to move on.”

No.

Cry it out. Scream it out. Laugh it out. Do what you have to do.

But don’t dwell. MOVE ON.

You will make yourself miserable if you only think about the bad things that happen to you and don’t even give time to the millions of good things that happen.

If you try your hardest and something just doesn’t come through for you. MOVE ON.

If you give 110% of yourself to a project or a person and it doesn’t work out. MOVE ON.

I believe that everyone deserves the right to honor something and mourn the way you want, how you want.

But if you mourn for the rest of your existence- it’s going to make for a depressing life. Don’t waste your life being sad.

People who love you don’t want to see you sad all of the time. They are there to help you through tough situations and are there when you come out on the other side.

See the glass half full. Live life.

Shit happens, guys.

Let it go. (The cold never bothered me anyway)

As the great JK Rowling once wrote:

“It does not do to dwell on dreams, and forget to live.” –Albus Dumbledore

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Don’t forget to live. Move on.

-Lesson by Madi Horner