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Lesson #268: What are you doing today?

4/15/15.

A few days ago my dad texted me this:

“Good afternoon my BEAUTIFULLLLLL Princess. What are u going to do today to make it a wonderful day? I love you.”

Isn’t he the cutest?

I know it happened a couple of days ago, and I promised to write a lesson each and every day about something that inspired me or encouraged me or made me think that very day—but this is different.

I haven’t stopped thinking about it since.

How wonderful is this?

We wish people a good day, or a better day. We say good morning, or good afternoon, or good night.

But how often is it that we are actively encouraging? Not just wishing greatness upon people, but encouraging them to create greatness for themselves? Saying to them—”You can do this, and I’m right here beside you”?

I just have to take a moment to acknowledge how absolutely lucky I am to have such an incredible father in my life. He doesn’t just love me, but encourages me and believes in me too.

Can you be that for someone today?

Can you be that for yourself?

As my dad would say:

“What are you doing to make today wonderful?”

Day 268.

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Lesson #267: What I learned from actually thinking I was invincible from rain

4/14/15.

1. Check the weather

2. Note the rain

3. Actually listen

4. Wear the appropriate shoes

5. Avoid regret

Lesson 267.

Lesson #266: It’s not over.

4/13/15.

Today my poetry professor walked into class and said,

“Remember how we talked about catcalling last class? On accident?”

We all nodded. Often times, we have a discussion in class that we didn’t plan on having and it’s really interesting. It stems out of what we write, or what we read.

“Well I said what I thought I had to say. But then I got in the car to go on a trip this weekend, and I was thinking about it the whole way, and I couldn’t stop talking to myself. I was just thinking: Why didn’t I say this then?

We all laughed and clapped in agreement. She told us the rest of her thoughts, and we all marveled at what she said.

This happens more times than not. The conversation ends and we move on, thinking of all the things we could have said and would have said and should have said. We think it’s over, so we silence our voices.

But today, my professor taught me a valuable lesson.

It’s not over until you say it’s over.

If you have more to add, add it. If you didn’t mean it, take it back. If you have something to say, speak up. If you think something is wrong, say it. If you think something is right, praise it.

It doesn’t matter how much time has passed. Sooner is better than later—but it’s never too late.

All it takes is saying: “Hey. Remember that one time? Well I was thinking about it, and this is what I really have to say.”

Silencing what we mean and how we feel happens in everyday conversations, in every setting. In the classroom, in our workplace, at home, with friends. We often don’t think about what we really want to say until afterwards; we’re only human. We need time to process. And as individuals, we have to take the time that we need.

Here’s the catch.

Even when we feel like it’s too late, it never is.

It’s only too late if you never say it.

Whether we’re sorry, whether we’re not sorry, whether we’re mad or angry or happy or baffled or insightful.

Say it.

It’s not over until nothing comes out.

Day 266.

Lesson #265: Invest your time.

4/12/15.

If you arent truly investing your time in it, you won’t ever get anything great out of it, and that’s the problem.

Day 265.

Lesson #264: Apologize.

4/11/15.

This lesson’s a simple one.

When you feel like you did something wrong,

apologize.

It’s a whole lot better than wondering if you did something wrong, and wondering if they are upset with you.

Whether they are, or whether they’re not,

you know in your gut when something is not right.

And that means it probably isn’t.

Put aside your pride,

and say sorry.

Day 264.

Lesson #263: Someone has to.

4/10/15.

Do it.

Someone has to.

Day 263.

Lesson #262: Six things I learned from my interview today.

4/9/15.

Here we go.

Six things I learned from my phone interview today.

1. What I learned while curling my hair: If something continually turns out shitty, it’s probably just because you’re not putting as much time and effort into it as you could be. Take your time. Allow yourself time. Care for each part of the process.

I promise this applies to more than hair.

2. What I learned from effing up scheduling: The East Coast is not the only place in the world. Time zones exist.

Remember those?

Yeah.

3. What I learned after beating myself up about it: You have to remember that you’re going to mess up sometimes, or this life is going to be a hard one. That happens. Things happen. People are way more forgiving then you think they are.

Everybody poops. Everybody messes up. Everybody forgives. (Or should. Including you.)

4. What I learned when they moved the interview back.. and I didn’t realize it:  You might have to walk across campus, and walk back. You might miss class for no reason and have a pissed off professor who doesn’t believe you. With that being said. Be flexible. Be ready. Check your email constantly. But to completely contradict the last statement—email sucks. Pick up the phone and talk. It’s so much easier.

5. What I learned when they didn’t ask the questions that I thought they’d ask: Prepare to be over-prepared. Prepare to not be prepared for what you expect. When you have something great to say, find a way to work it in.

I didn’t, and that’s why I’m telling you now.

6. What I learned when I felt a bad day coming on: My morning was fabulous, mainly because I actually got sleep for once. (If you’re an avid AYOL reader you’re probably like “This can’t be real”) I woke up, made coffee, and wait for it… HAD TIME TO MAKE BREAKFAST! I checked emails and did homework and IT FELT GREAT. I’M USING CAPS BECAUSE THAT’S HOW GREAT IT FELT.

But then something shitty happened.

I thought, “This can’t be. This can not be a bad day. I have an interview in five hours. This is probably the most important interview of my entire life.”

So I conscientiously went: “Nope. Not letting this ruin my day.”

And then it didn’t.

Magic.

But then something else shitty happened.

And I got a little upset—I’m not going to lie to you—we’re friends. I was a little bit frustrated. I was like “WHAT?? ARE YOU KIDD—AGAIN???”

But then I paused. Took a deep breath.

Or five.

And I decided once more:

“Nope. Not letting this ruin my day.”

And moseyed along.

The frustration may have lingered for a little bit. I’m only a person, it’s true.

But what’s important is that I made the decision not to link one incident to the other. In that moment, I decided not to let what happened affect my past or my future.

Nothing else bad happened after that.

If it did, quite frankly, that could be a different story.

But I learned this:

When it rains, it pours.

When you’re headed downwards, you think it’s the only way things are headed. Everything that happens seems horrible. Everything seems connected or linked. Maybe we’re just conditioned to think that way. But by saying: “NOPE THIS HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH ANYTHING”—you are free of that moment. You are free of that thing. You are free from that downward direction.

And my day turned out pretty okay.

The interview went pretty great.

So today.

When it rains, it pours.

But if you shake it off, put up an umbrella, and keep walking,

you’ll dry off eventually.

The sun is coming.

Day 262.